VALENTINE'S DAY | LOVE AND RELATIONSHIP
Updated: Apr 15
I came across the story which explains what is the meaning of love and relationship.
“A man, was much reserved by nature. He was very hesitant to ask his boss for a raise in his salary. One day, he got up and told his girlfriend, I will do it today. As the man came to his office, he was extremely nervous, anxious and very apprehensive all throughout the day to speak up. Finally, he gathered the courage to speak up and ask for a raise in his salary. Much to his delight, the boss agreed. The man was on the top of the world and when he came back home, he saw a beautiful dinner table, beautiful candle lit up. His girlfriend had prepared a festive meal to celebrate the occasion. He guessed someone from the office might have tipped her off and informed her about it. Anyway, he went to the kitchen, hugged her and gave her the news and came and sat down to have his meal. Right there on the table there was a card, the man picked up the card and read the contents. The card said, ‘Congratulations Darling, I knew you would get that salary raise'. These things, the dinner table, the candles, the fine meal all of these things are to tell you how much 'I LOVE YOU’. Perp by prep lady served him and as she went back into the kitchen finally to bring the dessert, from the pocket of her apron, fell another card unknown to her. The man picked up the card and as he read the contents of the card, he had tears in his eyes. On the card it was written, ‘Don’t worry darling, even if you do not get that salary raise, you deserve much more than that'. These things, the dinner table, the candles, the fine meal all of these things are to tell you how much I LOVE YOU".
Relationship is total acceptance, total love and total support. In old generation, when something was broken, they would fix it. Not just throw it away. They believe in a meaningful, heartfelt deep bonding of love because that’s the only thing that bring fulfilment to the heart. Only to love and be loved can give satisfaction to the heart. Love is just like life, it’s not always easy, and it does not always bring happiness but when we do not stop living then why should we stop loving.
Whereas, today everyone in a relationship want a second cup of coffee in their Instagram, want the Facebook official relationship that everyone can like and comment on, want the post that wins relationship goals. Everyone want the date for weekend brunch, swipe left in hopes of finding the right one. They want to spend more time into knowing what’s happening in other life, instead of showing care for the one who you belong to. They want the hand holding without the eye contact, want the teasing without the serious conversation, want the pretty promise without the actual commitment. They keep on chasing love, but don’t actually want to fall into it. They don’t want relationship, they want friends with benefits, want Netflix and chill. They want everything that will give them the illusion of a relationship without an actual relationship.
The key to relationship success does not lie in candlelight dinners. It is not found in trip to Paris or horse and carriage rides under moonlit skies. It is not found in getting your partner a different gift every other week. And it is not found during long walks on the beach. The important factor for a happy relationship is ATTENTION – ‘Small moments of positive attention’. If you want to book a Ferrari or take your sweetheart on a helicopter ride then it is fine. But one thing, none of that compares to giving your consistent undivided time and attention.
Love, what is love? I don't cerebrate you can genuinely put it into words. LOVE is help. Helping them to suffer less. Love is a deep desire for our loved one’s growth and happiness. Love is understanding someone, caring, sharing joys and sorrows. If we were to be rejected by the whole world, if we have one person in our life, who can totally accept us, totally believe in us, totally love us and totally support us, we can certainly achieve what we want and reach where we want to go. Love is a journey that is measured in depths and not miles. It is not important how long we lived, what’s important is how much we lived during that time.
“I LOVE YOU” are three of the greatest words in the world to hear. When someone tells you they love you, it fills you with warmth and reminds you that the people you care about care you right back, but sometimes being shown how much you’re loved can be even better than be told.
Today, I get to know there are a million different ways to do show someone that they hold a special place in your heart, but sometimes we get hung up on the big ways - elaborate surprises, fancy gifts and thoughtful cards - to show that we care. The truth is though, there are plenty of small, subtle ( but still oh-so-important) ways to say “I love you” every single day, and to every love in your life. It is the accumulation of all small little things that matter the most.
Whether you’re showing love to your best friend, your significant other, or your family, you can spread love with little, personal gestures. You probably already do this without even realising it, because love drives us to be kind and considerate and just wonderful humans in general.
Our happiness and our increase standard of life are not in things, it’s in people, it’s relationships. It’s meaningful, heartfelt deep bonding of love that bring fulfilment to the heart. It’s those meaningful exchanges of love that we share with each other in relationships, that bring true joy to the heart.
But very often we forget to give attention to those things that can truly make us happy. Some people are so poor, so poor, so absolutely poor that all they have is money. If you truly want to know how rich you are, drop a tear and see how many hands come to wipe that tear. And isn’t it the greatest irony, that something that brings the greatest fulfilment, we very conveniently neglect, in just running after something else.
In this world, we don’t know what we have until it’s gone, we lose touch with those who mean so much by neglecting the things that are so small. If you haven't told someone you love them, do it now. Do it. Tell people you love them. Call or text your family and friends. Hug them. Kiss them.
So, as the Valentine Day is coming, it is time for us to change how we imagine love. Love is not 50/50, it’s 100/100, a total commitment and a daily dose of forgiveness and understanding. It’s all chips on a table, your whole heart.
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